Step 1 of 11 0% Email Header<p>Thank you for taking the time to explore how you might be suffering unnecessarily -- emphasis on the <em>unnecessarily.</em> A synopsis of your results follows.</p><p>Your complete individual report is compiled in the <em>attached</em> PDF. Please also view and download the <a href="http://reggiemarra.files.wordpress.com/2019/07/resources-from-reggie-marra-ma-pcc.pdf">3-page Resource PDF</a> link mentioned in "Next Steps" below.</p><p>One clarifying note is that the "key areas of improvement" identified take into consideration both your "today" score <em>and</em> the size of the gap between that and how you would like to be in 12 months. So a current score of 6 with a desired score of 9 would be picked up as a <em>key area</em> before a current score of 8 with a desired score of 11. While both have a gap of 3, the assessment tool sees the lower current score as more in need of attention. Of course, for many qualitative reasons, you might prefer to develop a different topic than the key area(s) identified. I'm happy to answer any questions you have about this.</p>Email Footer<p>Gratefully,<br />Reggie <br />__________<br />Reggie Marra, MA, PCC<br />reggie.marra@gmail.com<br />203.770.8006</p>Feeling As Though I'm (Good) Enough To what extent do you truly feel you are “enough” or “good enough” in your life?I very often feel I'm not enough or good enough.Sometimes I feel good enough and other times I feel as though I'm an impostor.Most often, I feel good enough at both home and work.I feel confident, competent and ready for what comes my way.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12? Understanding and Learning From My Emotions How are you at recognizing, naming, understanding, working with and learning from your emotions?I have a hard time recognizing and naming my emotions.I can sometimes name my emotions, but I wish they'd just go away.I can accurately name and can sometimes work with my emotions, but know I have room for improvement.My emotions are essential sources of information for me, I understand them and learn from them regularly.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12? Self-Compassion To what extent are you able to extend compassion toward yourself, as you would toward someone else you care about?I feel very uncomfortable with the ideas of self-compassion and loving myself.I'm much more comfortable being compassionate toward others than I am towards myself.I recognize the need for self-compassion and often take the time to be with my struggles in a compassionate way.I understand that suffering is part of being human and remind myself regularly to be mindful of my struggles and compassionate towards myself.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12? Trust and Vulnerability How vulnerable (i.e. open, honest and trusting – not weak) are you with yourself and with others in your personal and professional relationships?Most of the time I don't feel safe being open, honest and vulnerable.I try to be honest and occasionally open up with some people after I've known them long enough.I am an open and trusting person, but usually wait for others to open up first.My default is open, honest vulnerability. I show up authentically and with humility, with nothing to hide.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12? Patience and Adaptability How patient, flexible and adaptable do you tend to be amid change?I don't like change and feel impatient with requests that I adapt or be more flexible.I understand that some change is inevitable, but would prefer that others adapt to me and how things are.I've learned that most change winds up being for the good, and even when it's not, I'm flexible enough to adapt when necessary. I love change and trying new things. Flexibility, adaptability and patience are among my strengths.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12? Communicating Effectively To what extent do you feel you understand, and are understood by others in the essential communications of your life?I have a hard time expressing myself clearly, and often feel that I don't understand others.I think I'm pretty clear in my communication, but sometimes others just don't get me (and I don't get them).I'm generally comfortable with the give and take of most forms of communication.I love language and take great pride in the clarity of what I say and write, and in my willingness to remain curious and ask questions when something is unclear to me.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12? Authentic ConnectionHow deeply connected do you feel with the primary people and places in your personal and professional relationships?I generally feel disconnected, or at best, superficially connected, with most people and places, primary or not.I have some deep connections, but most of my relationships are situational with mostly surface connection.I have some deep connections in my personal and professional relationships and would like to deepen those and increase how many I have..I thrive in relationship and have multiple deep connections at work, at home and in the larger community.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12? Feeling Fulfilled To what extent do your personal and professional lives fulfill you?I don't feel fulfilled in my professional or in my personal life.I rarely feel fulfilled. My fulfillment has been intermittent both professionally and personally.I often feel fulfilled with my home and/or work lives, and would like to feel increasingly more fulfilled.I feel blessed and fulfilled in finding myself where I am at this point in my life .How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12? Finding Joy at Work and Home How present is joy in your life?I don't really have a sense of what joy is, and am not sure I've experienced it.I think I've felt moments of joy in my life, but they've been situational and temporary.Joy is often present in my life, and I would like to learn how to increase its presence.My usual state of mind and heart is joy. Even amid struggles and disappointments, I am able to feel joy without being in denial of what's real.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12? Living Authentically To what extent do you feel you are living your true purpose – authentically engaging a life that has deep meaning for you?I don't really know what my true purpose is or how to live authentically.I'm often frustrated by talk of true purpose and would love to discover mine, but have no clear sense of how to do that.I feel that I am living authentically, that I understand my purpose and that my life has meaning, although I'm not 100% sure what my "true" purpose is. I feel as though I am authentically living my true purpose through a life that has deep meaning for me and that serves others.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12? Final Step One final step before we send you your results, which will enable you to understand where you are and where you want to be. 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Identify the most important numberQuestion 1 GapQuestion 2 GapQuestion 3 GapQuestion 4 GapQuestion 5 GapQuestion 6 GapQuestion 7 GapQuestion 8 GapQuestion 9 GapQuestion 10 GapQuestion 1 Yes Most ImportantQuestion 2 Yes Most ImportantQuestion 3 Yes Most ImportantQuestion 4 Yes Most ImportantQuestion 5 Yes Most ImportantQuestion 6 Yes Most ImportantQuestion 7 Yes Most ImportantQuestion 8 Yes Most ImportantQuestion 9 Yes Most ImportantQuestion 10 Yes Most ImportantFeedback if Column 1Feedback if Column 2Feedback if Column 3Feedback if Column 4Q1 or Topic 1 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Feeling As Though I'm (Good) Enough</strong></p><p>Please see the Individual Report PDF for specific feedback on this topic.</p>Q2 or Topic 2 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Understanding and Learning From My Emotions</strong></p><p>Please see the Individual Report PDF for specific feedback on this topic.</p>Q3 or Topic 3 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Self-Compassion</strong></p><p>Please see the Individual Report PDF for specific feedback on this topic.</p>Q4 or Topic 4 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Trust and Vulnerability</strong></p><p>Please see the Individual Report PDF for specific feedback on this topic.</p>Q5 or Topic 5 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Patience and Adaptability</strong></p><p>Please see the Individual Report PDF for specific feedback on this topic.</p>Q6 or Topic 6 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Communicating Effectively</strong></p><p>Please see the Individual Report PDF for specific feedback on this topic.</p>Q7 or Topic 7 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Authentic Connection</strong></p><p>Please see the Individual Report PDF for specific feedback on this topic.</p>Q8 or Topic 8 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Feeling Fulfilled</strong></p><p>Please see the Individual Report PDF for specific feedback on this topic.</p>Q9 or Topic 9 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Finding Joy at Work and Home</strong></p><p>Please see the Individual Report PDF for specific feedback on this topic.</p>Q10 or Topic 10 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Living Authentically</strong></p><p>Please see the Individual Report PDF for specific feedback on this topic.</p>Call to Action for EveryoneCall to Action For Column 1<p>I can see you are struggling and would love to see how I can help you work with and make progress in what matters most to you -- whether or not it matches the key area(s) identified in the survey.</p><p>I have learned both personally and professionally that much of our suffering comes from how we respond to the challenges we face, and not just from the challenges themselves. </p><p>This downloadable <a target="_blank" href="https://reggiemarra.files.wordpress.com/2019/07/resources-from-reggie-marra-ma-pcc.pdf"><strong>document</strong></a> provides some free resources and a little bit about how I work.</p><p>When it makes sense for you to do so, we can schedule a no-obligation conversation. You can ask me anything you like, I'll ask you what you might want to focus on in a coaching relationship, and I'll share a little (or a lot, if you like) about how I work.</p><p>I hope you find some value in the <strong><a target="_blank" href="https://reggiemarra.files.wordpress.com/2019/07/resources-from-reggie-marra-ma-pcc.pdf">document</a>, </strong>which is yours to peruse and use.</p>Call to Action For Column 2<p>I can see how frustrating some of these results might be for you. Please keep in mind that we're exploring areas in which you may be "suffering" <em>unnecessarily,</em> and that there are ways to develop and to alleviate this suffering. </p><p>I would love to see how I can help you work with those areas that most deeply matter to you -- whether or not they match the key area(s) identified in the survey.</p><p>This downloadable <strong><a href="http://reggiemarra.files.wordpress.com/2019/07/resources-from-reggie-marra-ma-pcc.pdf">3-page PDF</a></strong> provides some free resources, a little bit about how I work, and my contact information.</p><p>When it feels right, please get in touch and we can schedule a no-obligation conversation. You can ask me anything you like, I'll ask you what you might want to focus on in a coaching relationship, and I'll share a little (or a lot, if you like) about how I work. </p><p>Here's <strong><a href="http://reggiemarra.files.wordpress.com/2019/07/resources-from-reggie-marra-ma-pcc.pdf">the link to the PDF</a></strong> again.</p>Call to Action For Column 3<p>Your aggregate "current score" across these topics indicates that you are "doing well" on average in those areas that this survey addresses. If it makes sense to you to develop the identified key area(s) -- or any other areas that deeply matter to you, I would love to explore how we might work together toward that end.</p><p>Please keep in mind that we're exploring areas in which you may be "suffering" <em>unnecessarily,</em> and that there are ways to develop and for you to alleviate this suffering. </p><p>This downloadable <strong><a href="http://reggiemarra.files.wordpress.com/2019/07/resources-from-reggie-marra-ma-pcc.pdf">3-page PDF</a></strong> provides free resources, a little bit about how I work, and my contact information.</p><p>When it feels right, please get in touch and we can schedule a no-obligation conversation. You can ask me anything you like, I'll ask you what you might want to focus on in a coaching relationship, and I'll share a little (or a lot, if you like) about how I work.</p><p>Here's <strong><a href="http://reggiemarra.files.wordpress.com/2019/07/resources-from-reggie-marra-ma-pcc.pdf">the link to the PDF</a></strong> again.</p>Call to Action For Column 4<p>Congratulations on your level of success in the topics this survey addresses. If it ever feels right for you to further develop any of these, or other, areas, I would love to explore how we might work together on what deeply matters to you.</p><p>Please keep in mind that we're exploring areas in which you may be "suffering" <em>unnecessarily,</em> and that there are ways to develop and for you to alleviate this suffering. </p><p>This downloadable <strong><a href="http://reggiemarra.files.wordpress.com/2019/07/resources-from-reggie-marra-ma-pcc.pdf">3-page PDF</a></strong> provides free resources, a little bit about how I work, and my contact information.</p><p>When and if it feels right, please get in touch and we can schedule a no-obligation conversation. You can ask me anything you like, I'll ask you what you might want to focus on in a coaching relationship, and I'll share a little (or a lot, if you like) about how I work.</p><p>Here's <strong><a href="http://reggiemarra.files.wordpress.com/2019/07/resources-from-reggie-marra-ma-pcc.pdf">the link to the PDF</a></strong> again.</p>Q1 or Topic 1 Biggest Gap Call to ActionQ2 or Topic 2 Biggest Gap Call to ActionQ3 or Topic 3 Biggest Gap Call to ActionQ4 or Topic 4 Biggest Gap Call to ActionQ5 or Topic 5 Biggest Gap Call to ActionQ6 or Topic 6 Biggest Gap Call to ActionQ7 or Topic 7 Biggest Gap Call to ActionQ8 or Topic 8 Biggest Gap Call to ActionQ9 or Topic 9 Biggest Gap Call to ActionQ10 or Topic 10 Biggest Gap Call to ActionFeedback IF 1Feedback IF 2Feedback IF 3Feedback IF 4Topic/Question 1 results text 1-3<p>I'm so sorry you feel this way. Feeling "not enough" is a very difficult way to be in the world, and much more common than you might think. You might consider looking at the "evidence":</p><ul><li>What do you see that suggests <em>you are, in fact</em>, good enough?</li><li>How much of how you feel is evidence based, and how much is a story that you may be able to tell in a more empowering way?</li></ul><p>What might be the relationship between this sense of not being enough and other topics in this survey, like self-compassion, vulnerability and authentic connection?</p>Topic/Question 1 results text 4-6<p>At times feeling good enough, and at other times, like an imposter sounds as though you're on a bit of a roller coaster ride that's not particularly fun. You might consider exploring:</p><ul><li>Getting clear on what's behind those situations in which you do feel you're good enough.</li><li>Contrasting the above with those situations in which you feel you're not.</li><li>Exploring possibilities for using what you learn in the first bullet in order to change and/or eliminate those situations you identified in the second.</li></ul><p>Feeling not (good) enough in specific situations is common for many of us in the 21st Century. Other topics in this survey are interrelated with this sense of not enough.</p><p>Perhaps consider exploring some of these interrelationships with areas like emotions, self-compassion, authentic connection, and vulnerability.</p>Topic/Question 1 results text 7-9<p>Good to hear this -- feeling good enough most of the time is a blessing. Depending upon exactly where you land in this "doing well" range (scores 7-9), you may be comfortable with how things are, or you might want to develop some specific aspect of feeling "good enough."</p><p>It may be helpful to explore how feeling good enough connects with other survey topics, like self-compassion, emotional competence, vulnerability or authentic connection. How does any one of these influence the other?</p>Topic/Question 1 results text 10-12<p>Great! It must be wonderful to feel this way. The interface of competence and confidence is a significant factor in our abilty to be ready for whatever comes our way.</p><p>I wish you continued success.</p>Topic/Question 2 results text 1-3<p>I'm so sorry you're struggling with your emotions. It's a very difficult way to be in the world, and very common -- even with all the talk about emotional intelligence that seems to surround us. Because emotions are an important source of information, it's helpful to be able to differentiate them, name them, and understand the message they are sending.</p><p>You might try this the next time you feel a strong emotion (positive or negative). Ask yourself the following questions:</p><ul><li>Where in my body do I feel this?</li><li>What does it feel like (tension, lightness, heaviness, tingling, etc.)?</li><li>How would I label this (anger, fear, joy, anxiety, relaxation, etc.)?</li><li>What might be causing this?</li><li>What might I learn from it?</li></ul><p>While there's no short cut, there are some good places to start learning:</p><ul><li>Here's one example of the "emotion/feeling wheel" (there are many others online):</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.thinglink.com/scene/503651459225616386">https://www.thinglink.com/scene/503651459225616386</a> </p><ul><li>Yale University has developed the Mood Meter App, which you can learn about and download here: <a href="https://moodmeterapp.com/">https://moodmeterapp.com/</a></li></ul>Topic/Question 2 results text 4-6<p>Naming your emotions is an important first step toward understanding, working with and learning from them. Emotions provide us with information about how things are in our lives.</p><p>You might try this the next time you feel a strong emotion (positive or negative). Ask yourself the following questions:</p><ul><li>Where in my body do I feel this?</li><li>What does it feel like (tension, lightness, heaviness, tingling, etc.)?</li><li>How would I label this (anger, fear, joy, anxiety, relaxation, etc.)?</li><li>What might be causing this?</li><li>What might I learn from it?</li></ul><p>While there are no shortcuts, there are some good places to start learning. Here are two, among many:</p><ul><li>Here's one example of the "emotion/feeling wheel" (there are many others online):<a href="https://www.thinglink.com/scene/503651459225616386">https://www.thinglink.com/scene/503651459225616386</a> </li><li>Yale University has developed the Mood Meter App, which you can learn about and download here: <a href="https://moodmeterapp.com/">https://moodmeterapp.com/</a></li></ul>Topic/Question 2 results text 7-9<p>As you probably realize, emotions are important sources of information in our lives.<br /><br />If you don't already practice in this way, to continue your development of emotional competence, you might try this the next time you feel a strong emotion (positive or negative). Ask yourself the following questions:</p><ul><li>Where in my body do I feel this?</li><li>What does it feel like (tension, lightness, heaviness, tingling, etc.)?</li><li>How would I label this (anger, fear, joy, anxiety, relaxation, etc.)?</li><li>What might be causing this?</li><li>What might I learn from it?</li></ul><p>Have you heard of Yale University's Mood Meter App? Here's a link where you can find out more and download: </p><ul><li><a href="https://moodmeterapp.com/">https://moodmeterapp.com/</a></li></ul>Topic/Question 2 results text 10-12<p>Great! Emotions are an essential source of information for us. It seems as though you are in a good place regarding emotional competence.</p><p>Are you familiar with Yale University's Mood Meter App, which you can learn about and download here? <a href="https://moodmeterapp.com/">https://moodmeterapp.com/</a></p>Topic/Question 3 results text 1-3<p>You are not alone. Most of us struggle with providing ourselves with the basic love and compassion we automatically extend to others we care about.</p><p>In a moment of difficulty, it can be helpful to remember that we're human, that all humans struggle, and that it's essential (and okay) to be loving and compassionate toward ourselves.</p><p>A good place to learn more about self-compassion is Dr. Kristen Neff's site, which provides free practices and resources: <a href="https://self-compassion.org/">https://self-compassion.org/</a></p>Topic/Question 3 results text 4-6<p>Yes, most of us find it easier to extend love and compassion toward others than to ourselves.</p><p>In those moments when we struggle with this, it can be helpful to remember that we're human (obvious as that may be), that all humans struggle and suffer, and that it's essential (and okay) to be loving and compassionate toward ourselves in these moments.</p><p>A good place to learn more about self-compassion is Dr. Kristen Neff's site, which provides free practices and resources: <a href="https://self-compassion.org/">https://self-compassion.org/</a></p>Topic/Question 3 results text 7-9<p>Good for you. That you recognize the need for self-compassion and often take the time to practice it puts you in a "minority position" among other humans.</p><p>While you may already know of her work, Dr. Kristen Neff provides free practices and resources on her site. Perhaps you can deepen your self-compassion through practice: <a href="https://self-compassion.org/">https://self-compassion.org/</a></p>Topic/Question 3 results text 10-12<p>Wonderful! You seem to be well grounded in this essential area of self-compassion.</p><p>While you may already know of her work, Dr. Kristen Neff provides free practices and resources on her site: <a href="https://self-compassion.org/">https://self-compassion.org/</a></p>Topic/Question 4 results text 1-3<p>Very often, there is a connection between our desire for safety and trust amid openness and vulnerabiity and our sense of being "enough" or "good enough."</p><p>In the extreme we can feel paralyzed with fear and unable to move forward. As with our concerns about being good enough, it can be helpful to explore the "evidence."</p><ul><li>What do you see that suggests you are, in fact, not safe right now?</li><li>How much of how you feel is "evidence based," and how much is a story you're telling that you may be able to revise?</li><li>"Narrative Healing" offers us the opportunity to revise our stories in ways that help us move forward in life. It's not about denying what happens, but about how we relate to and interpret what happens.</li></ul>Topic/Question 4 results text 4-6<p>This makes so much sense. Once we know someone long enough (whatever that means to each of us), it becomes easier to open up a little at a time.</p><p>The question arises then, why is it that our openness is contingent on others? Not that we should share intimate, private details with strangers, but what might it take to feel increasingly comfortable in our own skin regardless of who's around?</p><p>One way to move forward with this is to identify the boundary of your comfort zone and intentionally move just a little beyond it with someone <em>in a situation in which the worst that might happen is something you know you could handle.</em></p><p>Learning, and expanding our trust/vulnerability boundaries a little at a time in this way can lead to significant growth over time. Again, the key is knowing that the worst that might happen is something that you know you can handle.</p>Topic/Question 4 results text 7-9<p>Ah, yes -- the careful poker player who doesn't mind showing his or her hand, but only after having a sense of what others are holding. Makes sense (and feels familiar).</p><p>What might it take, and what might be the advantage (not in an actual poker game) of leading with trust and vulnerability -- fully comfortable in your own skin, so to speak?</p><p>One way to move forward with this is to identify the boundary of your comfort zone and intentionally move just a little beyond it with someone <em>in a situation in which the worst that might happen is something you know you could handle, </em> and doing so before the other person opens up.</p><p>Learning, and expanding trust/vulnerability boundaries a little at a time in this way, whether or not the other person shows his or her hand, can lead to significant growth over time.</p>Topic/Question 4 results text 10-12<p>Beautiful -- sounds like you're completely comfortable in your own skin. Coupled with humility, that's a healthy way to be.</p><p>Congratulations on living in this way.</p>Topic/Question 5 results text 1-3<p>Yes, the status quo -- what we're used to, can be very comfortable. Requests for change (or change that just happens) can feel unfair and produce anxiety and impatience among other stressful feelings.</p><p>One approach I've found helpful when I've found myself impatient and anxious amid externally imposed change is to review the often forgotten changes I've successfully navigated in my life. Some examples:</p><ul><li>What I (and every adult) had to adjust to every 5 years or so in the first 20 years of life (think about what it was like in infancy, at 5, then 10 then 15 and then 20 -- major change).</li><li>The major shifts -- graduations, hirings, leavings, deaths of friends and family members I've adjusted to.</li></ul><p>I realize that navigating each of those, however imperfectly, continues to allow me to live more deeply into my life.</p><p>Finally, if we look closely, we find that nothing is certain or permanent. Given time things, conditions and we all change. Accepting, rather than resisting this change is a first step toward finding some peace and perhaps moving toward a more patient, adaptable way of being.</p>Topic/Question 5 results text 4-6<p>Recognizing that some change is inevitable, as you do, is an essential first step toward developing patience and adaptabilty.</p><p>Preferring that others adapt to us and to the current status quo can feel like a practical path, but not if we look at it from the others' perspectives -- those who would prefer that <em>we</em> change so they can stay comfortable.</p><p>One approach that can be helpful when we find ourselves impatient and anxious amid externally imposed change is to review the often forgotten changes we've navigated in life. Some examples:</p><ul><li>What every adult had to adjust to every 5 years or so in the first 20 years of life (think about what it was like in infancy, at 5, then 10 then 15 and then 20, etc. -- major change).</li><li>The major shifts -- graduations, hirings, leavings, deaths of friends and family members we've adjusted to.</li></ul><p>Navigating each of those, however imperfectly, continues to allow us to live more deeply into our lives.</p><p>What might it take to move from "some" change being inevitable and grow into a more general acceptance that "change is inevitable" and we can never really be <em>certain</em> of when it might come or what it might bring (accent on the word "certain" -- of course, some things are more or less predictable).</p>Topic/Question 5 results text 7-9<p>This is signifcant -- good for you, especially your ability to adapt to change when necessary.</p><p>How might your ability to adapt to change influence other areas in this survey in which you feel some development might be helpful?</p>Topic/Question 5 results text 10-12<p>Truly wonderful that you find yourself loving change. Orienting in this way prevents and/or alleviates much of the stress we face in our lives. Good for you!</p>Topic/Question 6 results text 1-3<p>So sorry to hear this. Feeling as though we're not clear in our expression, and/or that we don't understand others can be isolating and alienating, and it impacts other areas that this survey explores.</p><p>Many things contribute to effective communication, and many things can get in the way.</p><p>This link will take you to the first in a series of short essays on "Guidelines for 'Adult' Conversation." The subsequent essays appeared over a 16-week period: <a href="https://reggiemarra.com/2019/01/29/guidelines-for-adult-conversation/">https://reggiemarra.com/2019/01/29/guidelines-for-adult-conversation/</a></p><p>Each of these essays focuses on some aspect of what we need to know about ourselves, and how we relate to others in conversation.</p><p>I hope you find some value therein.</p>Topic/Question 6 results text 4-6<p>So, what might be some things that contribute to the difference between your sense that you're clear in communicating and your sense that others just don't get you? What's the evidence for your sense of clarity, and what might be getting in the way?</p><p>One way to explore this is through a series of brief essays on "Adult Conversation." The following link will take you to the introductory essay, and the subsequent essays are available as well. <a href="https://reggiemarra.com/2019/01/29/guidelines-for-adult-conversation/">https://reggiemarra.com/2019/01/29/guidelines-for-adult-conversation/</a><br /><br />Each of these essays focuses on some aspect of what we need to know about ourselves, and how we relate to others in conversation.</p><p> </p>Topic/Question 6 results text 7-9<p>Good for you: that you acknowledged both the "give" and the "take" is essential. </p><p>Here's a link to the first in a series of brief essays on "Adult Conversation"; the subsequent essays are available as well: <br /><a href="https://reggiemarra.com/2019/01/29/guidelines-for-adult-conversation/">https://reggiemarra.com/2019/01/29/guidelines-for-adult-conversation/</a></p><p>Each essay focuses on some aspect of what we need to know about ourselves, and how we relate to others in conversation.</p>Topic/Question 6 results text 10-12<p>Great -- a love of language and an inclination towards curiosity provide sigificant advantages toward effective communication.</p><p>Here's a link to the first in a series of brief essays on "Adult Conversation" that may be useful towards deepening your communication competence. The subsequent essays are available as well: <br /><a href="https://reggiemarra.com/2019/01/29/guidelines-for-adult-conversation/">https://reggiemarra.com/2019/01/29/guidelines-for-adult-conversation/</a></p>Topic/Question 7 results text 1-3<p>My heart goes out to you. Feeling disconnected is a significant source of stress, anxiety and depression.</p><p>Much in our 21st Century lives makes superficial connection via technology very easy, and through the increasing time many of us spend on electronic devices, we have less and less time to connect with real people and places.</p><p>Authentic connection has strong interrelations with effective communication, a sense of being enough and other areas this survey explores.</p><p>It is, I believe, more valuable to have one deep, reliable in-person human connection than to have 100 online. Is more grounding to connect with the landscape of a local park or backyard than to visit a hundred natural wonders online.</p><p>How is it that <em>you</em> might develop a deeper in-person connection, or a sense of belonging to a local place in your life?</p>Topic/Question 7 results text 4-6<p>I'm happy to learn that you have some deep connections, and I understand the frustration of recognizing that most others are situational and on the surface.</p><p>Much in our 21st Century lives makes superficial connection via technology very easy, and through the increasing time many of us spend on electronic devices, we have less and less time to connect with real people and places.</p><p>Perhaps it would be of some benefit to explore how your deep connections have come about, and what it is that sustains them. This might allow you to learn how to deepen those currently situational, surface connections.</p><p>It is, I believe, more valuable to have one deep, reliable in-person human connection than to have 100 online. Is more grounding to connect with the landscape of a local park or backyard than to visit a hundred natural wonders online.</p><p> </p>Topic/Question 7 results text 7-9<p>Congratulations -- you are ahead of many people both in having some deep connections and in your desire to deepen those you have and increase how many you have.</p><p>Perhaps it would be of some benefit to explore how your deep connections have come about, and what it is that sustains them. This might allow you to learn how to deepen those currently situational, surface connections, and lay the groundwork for inviting more deep connections into your life.</p>Topic/Question 7 results text 10-12<p>Truly great to read this. That you thrive in relationship and have deep connections throughout your life is a blessing, and, I'm guessing, also the result of intentional action on your part. </p><p>I wish you continued deep and authentic connections throughout your life.</p>Topic/Question 8 results text 1-3<p>So sorry to hear this, and, research suggests that some 70% of workers in the United States either don't feel engaged or are actively disengaged at work. You are not alone from a work perspective.</p><p>Our sense of fulfillment, both professionally and personally is deeply tied to other topics in this survey like feeling good enough, understanding emotions, connecting with others and finding joy.</p><p>Beginning an exploration of what you believe might fulfill you and how you might bring that into your life may be of help.</p><p>Learning what you are <em>intrinsically</em> motivated to do (that which you do for no other reason than a strong interest in doing it), contrasted with what you are <em>extrinsically</em> motivated to do (that which you do in order to get something else) can be helpful in exploring what might fulfill you.</p>Topic/Question 8 results text 4-6<p>I understand how this intermittment sense of fulfillment can be frustrating.</p><p>Perhaps it's worth exploring what it is that leads you to your experiences of fulfillment:</p><ul><li>See if you can identify a recent fulfilling experience in your personal and/or professional lives.</li><li>What was it that led up to each of these?</li><li>What was the nature of the experience -- what actually happened?</li><li>How do you know you were fulfilled (i.e. what were the "symptoms" of fulfillment for you)?</li></ul><p>What, if anything, do you understand about your experience of fulfillment after completing the four steps above?</p><p>This is not a magic formula or a quick fix (obviously), but sometimes we can learn some useful things about ourselves through this type of reflection.</p>Topic/Question 8 results text 7-9<p>Good for you for feeling fulfilled at home and/or work. As I'm sure you know, there is no one way, or one-size-fits-all for us when it comes to fulfillment.</p><p>One way to better understand the what and how of your fulfillment is exploring what you are <em>intrinsically</em> motivated to do (that which you do for no other reason than a strong interest in doing it), contrasted with what you are <em>extrinsically</em> motivated to do (that which you do in order to get something else). </p>Topic/Question 8 results text 10-12<p>Blessed and fulfilled -- no small statement in the 21st Century. Congratulations!</p><p>I wish you continued blessings and fulfillment.</p>Topic/Question 9 results text 1-3<p>I appreciate your honesty in admitting your struggle with joy. If you looked up "joy" in a dictonary, or listened to experts talk about it, you'll find a variety of definitions and interpretations -- any one of which might have value.</p><p>As we're using it here, joy refers to a period of time in which we feel seen accurately by others, or recognized for who we truly are, or acknowledged for what we do, and/or connected with something larger than oursleves.</p><p>Another way to hold joy is that it is a specific instance of fulfillment that come about in unique ways for each of us.</p><p>What is one moment of presence, connection and fulfillment you remember from childhood? </p>Topic/Question 9 results text 4-6<p>This sense of situational or temporary joy is common for many of us, and recognizing it as such is no small thing.</p><p>The question then follows, how might it be possible to have more of these moments and/or have them last longer -- increase both their frequency and their duration?</p><p>While I don't think there's a one-size-fits-all definition or experience of joy, it very often includes circumstances in which we feel seen accurately by others, recognized for who we truly are, acknowledged for what we do, and/or connected with something larger than ourselves. Not each of those aspects is necessary -- again, our sense of joy is unique.</p>Topic/Question 9 results text 7-9<p>Good for you. To have the presence of joy often in life is a blessing. The desire to intentionally increase that presence makes sense.</p><p>Perhaps it's worth exploring what and who already bring you joy -- the characteristics of the people, places, and circumstances that allow you to feel joy. </p><p>Based on what you find, you may then be better able to engage more often with those people, places and circumstances, or learn to recognize their inherent characteristics of joy in other areas of your life.</p>Topic/Question 9 results text 10-12<p>A deep bow to you. To regularly experience joy in mind and heart, even amid your awareness of challenging external circumstances, is a powerful way of being.</p><p>I encourage you to share your joyful presence with others each day.</p>Topic/Question 10 results text 1-3<p>My heart goes out to you. Some of us know (or think we know) our true purpose early in life; some of us grow into a sense of purpose more gradually. Often there are hints in childhood of what we're called to do, <em>and</em> there's no guarantee that we'll recognize them as such.</p><p>One of my favorite quotes on purpose comes from <a href="http://www.frederickbuechner.com/">Frederick Buechner</a>: “The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.”</p><p>Whether or not you're comfortable with the concept of God, your purpose lies at the intersection of what brings you deep gladness, and what the world is hungry for.</p>Topic/Question 10 results text 4-6<p>Yes, I understand how frustrating talk of "true purpose" can be in the absence of any sense of it, or how to discover it.</p><p>Often, we can look too broadly (e.g. "my purpose is to help people") and have no idea exactly how we might do that. We can also get too specific (e.g. including a job description and title, salary, location, etc. -- that might be a helpful exercise, but it's a goal, not true purpose).</p><p>One of my favorite quotes on purpose comes from <a href="http://www.frederickbuechner.com/">Frederick Buechner</a>: “The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.”</p><p>Whether or not you're comfortable with the concept of God, your purpose lies at the intersection of what brings you deep gladness, and what the world is hungry for.</p>Topic/Question 10 results text 7-9<p>Congratulations on the authenticity, purpose and meaning in your life. </p><p>One of my favorite quotes on purpose/vocation might nudge you closer to that 100%. From <a href="http://www.frederickbuechner.com/">Frederick Buechner</a>: “The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.”</p><p>Whether or not you're comfortable with the concept of God, your purpose lies at the intersection of what brings you deep gladness, and what the world is hungry for.</p>Topic/Question 10 results text 10-12<p>Authenticity, true purpose, and meaning -- in service of others. A deep bow to you.</p><p>You may already be familiar with one of my favorite quotes on purpose/vocation: From <a href="http://www.frederickbuechner.com/">Frederick Buechner</a>: “The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.”</p><p>Whether or not you're comfortable with the concept of God, your purpose lies at the intersection of what brings you deep gladness, and what the world deeply needs. 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