Step 1 of 70%Email Header<p>Thank you for taking the time to complete the quiz.</p><p>Your individual report is compiled in the PDF attached.</p>Email Footer<p>Many thanks,</p><p>Janet G. Hudson, Ph.D. ACC</p><p><a href="https://tametheinnerchaos.com">TAME The INNER CHAOS</a></p>Decision-makingHow do you feel about decision-making?Choices exhaust me! I hate making the wrong decision, and there are so many ways to go wrong.If it weren’t for deadline pressure, I’d probably never make a decision. Never confident I’ve made the right choice.The lower the stakes, the greater my comfort with deciding. Still working on the big decisions.I trust that the decisions I make are consistent with my values and goals. Plus, I make the best decision possible with the time and information available.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12?ConfidenceHow do you handle new opportunities with many unknowns?I go into my avoidance mode until the pressure becomes intense enough that I shift into intense-focus mode to get it done. The process is exhausting!I enjoy thinking about the possible outcomes but when considering how to get there, I quickly get overwhelmed, confused, and long for the project to disappear.I love new challenges! As long as I can generate momentum, find needed resources and support, I do well. Resistance sets in, however, when I hit a major roadblock.When tackling something new and scary, I’ve learned that the unknowns become less mysterious as I get started working. I have a process for finding a way into the project and a process for working through stuck places along the way.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12?ResilienceHow do you handle disappointing setbacks?I can’t stop regretting what I did wrong or being frustrated and angry about what happened.I either spend lots of time analyzing what went wrong or trying not to think about any of it, hoping something good will happen.I put one foot in front of the other and get moving forward, and I’m super cautious about what’s next.I reconnect with my bigger purpose, turn to my support system for ideas and insights, and identify practical steps to get moving forward.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12?Self-confidenceHow do you deal with criticism?Usually I feel terrible about myself or get angry with the critic.I avoid it. Work hard not to make mistakes. Play it safe and ensure I satisfy others.I can take it, and I can dish it out. I’ve become my greatest critic in preparation for others’ criticism.I’ve learned that criticism is a perspective for me to consider. When I disentangle it from my emotions, I notice how it accelerates my growth.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12?PurposeAre you clear on how and where you want to contribute or bring about change?I have no idea, thinking about it makes me anxious.I imagine, and even have glimpses of, what I long to do, but my current work isn’t aligned with my mental image.I’m heading in the right direction. I see opportunities emerging from my efforts, but still harbor some doubts.Very clear! This work is meaningful to me, valuable to others, and challenges me to expand myself and my skills.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12?Priorities Are your current commitments well aligned with your aspirations and strengths?No, I’m overloaded with responsibilities I accepted mostly to please others and/or to avoid missing out on future opportunities.Most of my commitments are determined by the opportunities that have come my way. Some fit and some don’t, but I’m unsure how I would create my own opportunities.My commitments are well aligned generally. I’ve mastered saying yes to the right things, but I’m not as satisfied with creating my own opportunities.Yes, I love creating opportunities that fit my aspirations and strengths, saying yes to what fits and no to what doesn’t.How would you rate yourself today, on a scale of 1-12?Where would you like to be in 12 months time, on a scale of 1-12?Final StepOne final step before we send you your results, which will enable you to understand where you are and where you want to be.Name* First Name Email* Email Consent* Yes, I give consent to securely store my details, email me my report along with future relevant tips supporting my score. Note: We will never share your details with any third party. View our Privacy Policy.Identify the most important numberTopic 1 GapTopic 2 GapTopic 3 GapTopic 4 GapTopic 5 GapTopic 6 GapTopic 1 Yes Most ImportantTopic 2 Yes Most ImportantTopic 3 Yes Most ImportantTopic 4 Yes Most ImportantTopic 5 Yes Most ImportantTopic 6 Yes Most ImportantFeedback if Column 1<p>From your self-identified score, it appears you are struggling with most areas, and could really use some help.</p>Feedback if Column 2<p>From your self-identified score, it appears you are often frustrated in a number of key areas, and could really use some help to improve this.</p>Feedback if Column 3<p>From your self-identified score, it appears you are doing OK in most areas, but could still do with some improvement.</p>Feedback if Column 4<p>From your self-identified score, it appears you are successful with most areas. Well done!</p>Q1 or Topic 1 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Decision-making</strong></p><p>Wow, what pressure you’re putting on yourself. The work required to avoid making any wrong decision is exhausting and dare I say impossible. So much research and consideration of all the possibilities! And then all the outcomes that you cannot anticipate or control. </p><p>Underneath all that hard work and desire to choose correctly most people discover some doubt and overwhelm. Can you relate to that? If so, you might check out <a href="https://tametheinnerchaos.com/overwhelmed/">Overwhelmed vs. Overcommitted</a> for some insights into the difference between the two and some ideas for diminishing overwhelm. </p><p>Additionally, when you put so much pressure on yourself to make the “right” decision and dread any wrong choice, you’re likely contending with some perfectionist tendencies. Does that sound familiar? <a href="https://youtu.be/Nh-F9bpyVBQ">If so, learn more about perfectionism here</a>. </p><p>If you spend too much time trying to make decisions; if even simple choices lead to exhaustive research, hesitation, and the agony of potential regret; answer the following three questions then check out my perspective on these three and see if that inspires or motivates you to make some changes.</p><p><!--[if !supportLists]-->1. <!--[endif]-->What might I gain if I could be more decisive?</p><p><!--[if !supportLists]-->2. <!--[endif]-->What would I need to accept to be decisive?</p><p><!--[if !supportLists]-->3. <!--[endif]-->What would I need to make timely decisions and not treat every decision the same?</p>Q2 or Topic 2 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Confidence</strong></p><p>If you didn’t stress over challenges, new opportunities, and all things mysterious and unknown, you’d likely have plenty of <strong>confidence</strong>. If you could have one thing magically added to your repertoire of skills and resources, it might be <strong>confidence</strong>! </p><p><strong>Confidence </strong>feels like the secret ingredient that fuels . . . </p><ul><li>action on new opportunities.</li><li>determination needed to tackle challenges.</li><li>curiosity toward figuring out all the unknowns. </li></ul><p>If you link <strong>confidence </strong>to past accomplishments and already developed skills, then of course new challenges and new opportunities, which you haven’t yet experienced or mastered, will seem scary and stressful. Avoidance is one of the most common approaches to dealing with what seems scary and stressful. </p><p>So, if you’re on the hunt for a healthy dose of <strong>confidence </strong>and you derive your <strong>confidence </strong>from your past accomplishments, then give yourself a big break. You’re doing the most logical thing possible, avoiding the discomfort, doubt and confusion as long as possible!</p><p><strong>Confidence </strong>is a feeling and a state of mind that can be created from past accomplishments, but that feeling, and state of mind can also simply be created without the past accomplishments!! </p><ul><li>If you’re embarking on a new opportunity right now, check out <a href="https://tametheinnerchaos.com/roller-coaster/">Emotional Roller Coaster of Transitions: Make it the Ride of Your Life</a></li><li>If you’re already feeling a bit panicked from a current challenge and would like something to calm you a bit, check out <a href="https://tametheinnerchaos.com/fear/">How Fear Derails Your Success</a></li></ul>Q3 or Topic 3 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Resilience</strong></p><p>When you’re mired in frustration, regret, and analysis of what might have been, moving forward is tough. Start with some self-compassion since criticism and the torture of “what-ifs” doesn’t help. Plus, setbacks ARE disappointing. The key is not getting stuck in the disappointment. </p><p>Picture this particular setback taking its place alongside all of your other life experiences. It’s now become part of that cumulative history—your past. </p><p>One big problem with regret is the implication that something should be different than it is. Or something in the past should have been different than it was. Maybe: </p><ul><li>You should have made a different choice.</li><li>Others should have acted differently.</li><li>The circumstances that unfolded should have been different. </li></ul><p>And on and on regret goes imagining all those possible alterations of past actions.</p><p>But what IS already IS. You get that. </p><p>What IS—this present moment—is the product of everything that has come before this moment. </p><p>We can’t change the past(<em>no matter how we all wish we could at times</em>!). </p><p>Believe me! Thinking back on the tanning I did when I was young, or those perms I was addicted to for years until I finally embraced my natural, straight hair! I understand the desire to change the past! </p><p>Regret about the setback traps us in wanting to do the impossible: change the past. And you instantly know it’s impossible, so you feel defeated. And feeling defeated only fuels the regret and round and round it goes. </p><p>So instead of the negative mantra, “I wish I had . . .” Try letting go! </p><p>While the past can’t change, the future can change!</p><p>AND your interpretation of the past can change!!</p><p>Experiment with changing your interpretation of the setback. Find a perspective that doesn’t judge or blame you. Find a perspective that generates hope and possibilities. </p><p>Acknowledge your disappointment from the setback, grieving what’s lost, craft an interpretation that focuses on growth and learning, and take a small step toward what’s next.</p><p><a href="https://tametheinnerchaos.com/thoughts">Change your focus</a>. Accept where you are. You are where you are and that’s enough. No judgment! </p>Q4 or Topic 4 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Self-confidence</strong></p><p>You’re certainly not alone in your desire to either avoid criticism or push against the critical feedback. When criticism from others, whether constructive or mean-spirited, feeds your inner critic watch out. Next you might notice unhelpful stories eating away at your self-confidence and sabotaging all your best intentions to move forward on the projects that matter most. </p><p>You know your strategies for dealing with criticism are counterproductive when you . . .</p><ul><li>Second-guess yourself constantly</li><li>Reevaluate any decision that evokes comments from others that you construe as critical</li><li>Avoid taking even small risks because you dread the possibility of falling short and being criticized</li><li>Frequently emphasize that others have done something that’s hindering your progress</li></ul><p>Some valuable knowledge and skills for contending with criticism include:</p><ul><li>Understanding your negative reaction is part of being human<ul><li><a href="https://tametheinnerchaos.com/brains-two-systems-fast-slow/">Brain’s 2 Systems: FAST and SLOW</a></li></ul></li><li>Being OK with that initial negative reaction <ul><li><a href="https://tametheinnerchaos.com/negativity-bias/">5 Practices to Counteract Your Negativity Bias</a></li></ul></li><li>Strengthening the foundation of your self-confidence to withstand criticism</li><li>Appreciating the value of criticism and feedback to your skill development</li><li>Disentangling your well-being from criticism</li><li>Interpreting the criticism in a way that empowers rather than disempowers you</li></ul>Q5 or Topic 5 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Purpose</strong></p><p>Knowing how you want to contribute isn’t the same as having your life and career all mapped out. It’s more about an awareness of your skills and desires. If setting 10 year, or even 5 year goals, raises your anxiety level, don’t worry—those aren’t the most practical ways to generate clarity. But if your discomfort is equally high when imagining yourself a year from now or asserting what you’d like to be celebrating at the end of 3 months, then by all means let’s explore how you might move past that weighty feeling of uncertainty and doubt. </p><p>Yes, there are many obstacles to clarity and pathways to finding it. </p><p>Maybe you need to:</p><ul><li>Rekindle a dream you’d given up on</li><li>Grieve a disappointment</li><li>Develop a new dream</li><li>Identify some specifics that would get you moving on the ideas you have</li><li>Let go of thinking something’s wrong with you because you don’t have a clear passion</li><li>Reframe your uncertainty as an opportunity and not a shortcoming or something that’s missing and wrong about you.</li><li>Explore your curiosity</li></ul><p>Knowing THE thing, especially a BIG thing, you want to be able to share and work toward isn’t everything or even essential. But when you can identify it and imagine that future for yourself—you’re fueling your motivation, which is very important! </p><p><strong>Clarity generates energy, direction, momentum while removing barriers! </strong>When clarity shows up things shift, optimism emerges. </p><p>By contrast, when you’re seeking clarity, you’re likely stuck, confused, and uncertain.</p><p>Is clarity an illusion or, in fact, the Holy Grail?</p><p>Notice the next time you find yourself seeking clarity. <strong>Consider answering one or more of these questions that seem most relevant when what you desire most is clarity. </strong></p><ul><li>What’s the most difficult thing about not having clarity on this ____________?</li><li>What would be different if I had clarity on this ______________?</li><li>What action would I take now if I had clarity regarding _______________________?</li></ul><p>These questions may help you uncover the <strong>source</strong> of your hesitation, confusion, or uncertainty. </p><p>Let’s face it. Others rarely bail us out by initiating a call to answer the unstated questions we have about our big dream that roll around in our minds. <strong>Clarity often only shows up in hindsight, leaving us needing to act without that much-coveted clarity.</strong></p><ul><li>What if you were <strong>willing to take a risk</strong> and act in the face of your identified hesitation, confusion, or uncertainty?</li><li>What if the missing clarity could be<strong> summoned by your courage</strong>? Maybe your courage to ask a few uncomfortable questions. Maybe the courage to take a step without any promise of results.</li><li><strong>What’s the worst thing that could happen</strong> if you acted without clarity?</li></ul><p>Consider the potential payoff of acting now without clarity and take a small step in that direction to invite her closer.</p>Q6 or Topic 6 Biggest Gap Feedback<p><strong>Priorities </strong></p><p>When you love to make a difference and have many gifts others recognize and derive pleasure from helping/supporting others, overcommitment is going to be a lifestyle hazard!</p><p>Nothing wrong with having a full life composed of all the things you love. But you’re a human with many needs that include tending to your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. So, you DO have limits and benefit from respecting them. </p><p>If you notice you get overwhelmed frequently, check out <a href="https://tametheinnerchaos.com/overwhelmed/">Overwhelmed vs. Overcommitted</a> to spark your thinking around what distinguishes these two and to learn how you can have a very full list of responsibilities that keep you hopping while still leave behind the unpleasant overwhelm. </p><p>What’s more frustrating is the full plate of things that aren’t taking you where you want to go—things that drain your energy—things that don’t fit who you’re growing to become; maybe even things that you only did because you didn’t feel confident enough to say no. If that sounds like your frustration, check out <a href="https://tametheinnerchaos.com/yes-no/">When Saying No to Makes Yes Possible</a>.</p><p>So perhaps you just need a workload adjustment that could be improved with a little intentional prioritizing. If that sounds valuable, check out <a href="https://tametheinnerchaos.com/prioritize/">Prioritize: By Default? With Intention?</a></p><p>You might need to assess what’s driving your people-pleasing tendencies. Maybe you could consider what’s behind the fear of turning down opportunities? Is it a fear of being disliked? Is it a fear that more opportunities won’t come? </p><p>Maybe you haven’t even recognized your aspirations or strengths yet. It can help to better understand yourself and your personal values first, in order to align your commitments with your aspirations. </p>Call to Action for EveryoneCall to Action For Column 1<p>Going to the trouble to take this self-assessment says you’re serious about finding more confidence, clarity, and calm. Even if you’re not currently feeling successful, part of you still believes you can be.</p><p>Ready to take one or more areas from this assessment and identify a few action steps to get you moving in the direction you want?</p><p>Book a FREE Coaching Conversation! The best way to understand coaching is to experience it. </p><p>The goal of this conversation is for you to leave with some new insight and/or greater clarity on the next step you could take in the area you want to explore.</p><p>This is not a sales call! If you’re interested, I’ll let you know what I can offer you, but will email you all the details afterwards so you can make a clear choice if it’s right for you at this time.</p><p><a href="https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=12666695&appointmentType=11932297">Click HERE to schedule your FREE Coaching Conversation!</a></p><p> </p><p> </p>Call to Action For Column 2<p>Going to the trouble to take this self-assessment says you’re serious about finding more confidence, clarity, and calm. Even if you’re not currently where you want to be, you certainly want to give yourself every opportunity to move in a positive direction.</p><p>Ready to take one or more areas from this assessment and identify a few action steps to get you moving in the direction you want?</p><p>Book a FREE Coaching Conversation! The best way to understand coaching is to experience it. </p><p>The goal of this conversation is for you to leave with some new insight and/or greater clarity on the next step you could take in the area you want to explore.</p><p>This is not a sales call! If you’re interested, I’ll let you know what I can offer you, but will email you all the details afterwards so you can make a clear choice if it’s right for you at this time.</p><p><a href="https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=12666695&appointmentType=11932297">Click HERE to schedule your FREE Coaching Conversation!</a></p><p> </p>Call to Action For Column 3<p>Going to the trouble to take this self-assessment says you’re serious about finding more confidence, clarity, and calm. So much is working for you already, you might want to keep moving in a positive direction and explore what you’re really capable of doing.</p><p>Ready to take one or more areas from this assessment and identify a few action steps to get you moving in the direction you want?</p><p>Book a FREE Coaching Conversation! The best way to understand coaching is to experience it. </p><p>The goal of this conversation is for you to leave with some new insight and/or greater clarity on the next step you could take in the area you want to explore.</p><p>This is not a sales call! If you’re interested, I’ll let you know what I can offer you, but will email you all the details afterwards so you can make a clear choice if it’s right for you at this time.</p><p><a href="https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=12666695&appointmentType=11932297">Click HERE to schedule your FREE Coaching Conversation!</a></p><p> </p>Call to Action For Column 4<p>Going to the trouble to take this self-assessment says you’re serious about finding more confidence, clarity, and calm. Even if you’re only trying to close a small gap, you want to be your best.</p><p>Ready to take one or more areas from this assessment and identify a few action steps to get you moving in the direction you want?</p><p>Book a FREE Coaching Conversation! The best way to understand coaching is to experience it. </p><p>The goal of this conversation is for you to leave with some new insight and/or greater clarity on the next step you could take in the area you want to explore.</p><p>This is not a sales call! 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