Step 1 of 11 0% Email HeaderThank you for taking the time to complete the quiz.Your individual report is compiled in the PDF attached. Many professionals believe that they are chasing the elusive 'self-awareness' which will help them be the best they can be and reach their potential. BUT, to be an effective communicator we need a whole range of other skills and emotional intelligence 'behaviours', in addition to simply being more self-aware. For example, we need:assertiveness (requires self-worth) optimism (must be realistic, not OVER optimism which comes from self-sabotage)emotional expression (requires awareness of others)trust (requires deep regard for others and empathy)conflict management (must understand your triggers so that you can avoid aggression)resilience (regard for self that comes from your deep beliefs about your value)connection with others ( based on empathy, trust, authenticity, integrity and understanding of others) EI is NOT just self-awareness.That's why developing effectiveness in communication requires expert support. When I assess leaders for EI, often they can have high self-awareness but have underdeveloped areas in their wider Emotional Intelligence. 😲I would love to discuss with you, how you can leverage what I know, to increase your impact, productivity, connection, knowledge, emotional intelligence and leadership skills.You can book a free 'connection' call here Email FooterMany thanks,Jane VBest Hopes Coaching and Consulting Ltdjane@besthopes.co.ukInstructions: Click/touch on the answer below that you feel is the most relevant. Self Awareness1/10<br /> When something really matters to me I can become irritated and frustrated especially when others can't see my point of view!Yes, I'm really struggling with this and often experience strong internal emotions that come over me quickly and are difficult to hide.I'm often frustrated with this and find it difficult to persuade others of my positionI have some awareness about what my triggers are and can notice that I am becoming 'activated' by what someone is saying or the position they are taking on a particular subjectI pay a lot of attention to what my body 'tells' me and know exactly which thought responses activate my emotional and physiological responses. 2/10<br /> When scrolling social media, if I see something that is incorrect, or notice a post I have already seen somewhere else or know about the subject, I am compelled to comment.<br /> Yes, I just can't help myself. I have to comment to show that I already knew the content/subject or that I have seen the content before and I know it isn't original. I find it really hard to scroll by but I rarely consider the impact of me doing this.I'm often compelled to correct others so that they understand my position and know I am just as knowledgeable as they are (or think they are)I am able to reflect on the reason why I would like to comment. I often recognize it's about being 'right' or showing my position, rather than adding real value to the other person. I often evaluate the reasoning and impact of commenting and whether it will add value to the authors original post. I often decide to scroll on by! Awareness of Others 3/10<br /> I am not as sensitive or aware of other peoples' feelings as some people are..True, I rarely consider their feelings, especially in a working context, business is business after all.I'm often frustrated that people can take offense by the way I approach things.I generally notice when people are experiencing negative emotions and can be sensitive in responseI am always in tune with those around me and rarely miss the cues that others are upset, worried or confused by my communication or approach to something we are discussing. 4/10<br /> I make a particular point of asking others how they are feeling.Not very often. I typically assume that if they don' t tell me there is an issue, then they are fine.I use 'checking' questions, such as; 'Is that OK?' or 'Have you got any issues?'If I am communicating a difficult message I will check how others feel about it. It feels really important to ensure that my communication or message has been received as intended. I always check how others are feeling in response. Level of Connection5/10<br /> I flex my listening style depending on the situation.Not really, I listen to get key facts so that we can move the conversation on. I may appear impatient but I am trying to be efficient with time.Not always, as I like to keep conversations moving. However, I do listen to get as much information as I can and I feel that I do OK with that.I have to listen well so that I can summarize what the other person has said and show them that I really listened. I find this helps them feel valued.I listen to what the other person is saying as well as attempting to listen with curiosity and connect with them on a deeper level. I often respond by asking probing questions that help me understand more about what they need from me in response. 6/10<br /> I use open questions to gain clarity and a deeper understanding of what others are saying.Typically I use communication to find specific information such as; 'did you manage to get that done', 'how are you' or 'is everything OK?' Yes but, I am careful not to just ask questions just for the sake of it, as I'm often frustrated that conversations can go off track if we don't focus on the topic/issue at hand.I'm doing OK with this, I usually begin a conversation with open questions to check the wider context.I'm really successful with this. I always dig deeper, listening to connect and using open questions beginning with words such as; where, who, how, what ,when etc. Level of Assertiveness 7/10<br /> Giving feedback is essential for effective communication and engagement. which is most like you?<br /> I avoid giving feedback because I fear how it will make other people feel. Sometimes I also worry it will jeopardize the relationship. I sometimes drum up the courage to give feedback when it's really important. The problem is, I can never find the right words because I am afraid of it sounding critical. Once I have given feedback I begin second guessing whether it was the right thing to do.I am doing OK, I do give feedback and try to offer a positive as well as a negative. I feel quite confident that the feedback is taken on board by the recipient. I'm really successful with this. I regularly give feedback , both positive and constructive. I make the feedback behavior based, never about the person's character or ability and I am sure the feedback is taken well. 8/10<br /> Conflict handling is an essential part of effective communication. Which is most like you when you're treated unfairly or disrespected?When I get upset or angry I tend to be 'on the attack' with others.I'm often frustrated with this and when I have a disagreement with someone we sometimes fall out or there is an atmosphere between us.I'm doing OK, but I can sometimes feel 'internally aggressive' towards the person or situation, Nobody would know that though..I feel I can hide it well and appear calm.I'm really successful with this. I am comfortable to express my needs and expectations and to point out when my needs are not being met. I can say no and push back when I need to, without being critical or defensive. Conversational Agility and Collaboration 9/10 <br /> When we can flex in our conversations, we can help others to truly engage. True agility is being able to 'Re-frame, Refocus, and Redirect' the discussion to create ultimate connection and understanding. How agile do you think you are in your conversations?<br /> I tend to be lead by the other person and am not clear how to get them to refocus the topic, re- frame the issue or to help them change their emotional state. I'm often frustrated with this as I want to steer the conversation to be more productive and positive but others know what I am doing and don't respond well.I'm doing OK, but could probably be more aware of how to introduce the techniques at the right time to really make sure the other person knows I am trying to help and am open to listening.I'm really successful with this and am often complimented that people feel much better after a conversation with me. This is because I listen carefully to identify the 'blocks' and I create new ways to overcome them, without disregarding what the other persona in saying. 10/10<br /> Have you completed an 'Emotional Intelligence Diagnostic' to assess your unique strengths and weaknesses as a leader or person of influence?No, I have never really considered how an assessment can hep me improve my relationships and communication impact.I would not know how to access an 'EI ' diagnostic but it sounds helpful, as I would like to have more strategies and techniques to influence others.I'm doing OK, I have a good sense of my EI strengths and weaknesses and the impact on my communication style.Yes, and I am fully aware of my range of EI behaviors, values and hot buttons as I have completed a specialist diagnostic and know exactly how these elements impact on my communication and leadership style, as well as how others perceive me. Final DetailsOne final step before we send you your results. 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Overall Score results text for Column 1 - 0-40%From your self-identified score, it appears you are probably struggling to communicate in an effective way, and could really use some support with your conversational impact.Overall Score results text for Column 2 - 40-62%From your self-identified score, it appears you are often frustrated in a number of key areas, and could really use some additional support to engage others more effectively.Overall Score results text for Column 3 - 63-84%From your self-identified score, it appears you are doing OK in most areas, but could still do with some support to have greater impact and increase engagament with those you interact with regularly.Overall Score results text for Column 4 - 85-100%From your self-identified score, it appears you are successful with most areas of communication. Well done! Since you take communication to the next level, you may wish to learn some advanced techniques.Call to Action for EveryoneCall to Action for Column 1 - 0-40%I can see you are struggling in some areas and would love to see how I can help you improve your effectiveness so that you can become more connected with others.Book an exploration callwhere you can get coaching support, ask questions and also get to hear about a range of solutions that would help you right away. Call to Action for Column 2 - 40-62%I can see you might be frustrated with some of the outcomes of the conversations you have and would love to see how I can help you improve so that you can maximise your impact.Book an exploration callwhere you can get coaching support, ask questions and also get to hear about a range of solutions that would help you right away. Call to Action for Column 3 - 63-84%I can see you are doing well in most areas but I would love to see how I can help you reach your maximum and optimal potential as an effective communicator. There are so many effective strategies that can make a whole world of difference to your day to day connection and impact.Book an exploration callwhere you can get coaching support, ask questions and also get to hear about a range of solutions that would help you right away. Call to Action for Column 4 - 85-100%I can see you are successful in most areas and I would love to see how I can help you to elevate your impact even further and to ensure you can leverage your communication effectiveness to grow your business and impact.Book an exploration callwhere you can get coaching support, ask questions and also get to hear about a range of solutions that would help you right away. Question 1 results text for Column 1 - 0-40%The key descriptors of low Self-Awareness are:Unaware of own emotional states causing reactive behaviour.Limited range of emotional expression when communicating with others.Not incorporating intuition into decision making.Attempts to ignore, bottle or compartmentalise emotions.Lack awareness of own valuesYou may be ignoring or shutting yourself off from your feelings. This is likely to happen if you do not like the way you feel or have low self-value. Attempting to ignore, bottle or compartmentalise emotions will lead to a distorted perspective and poor engagement with others.Some of these elements may apply to you at the moment and are likely to affect your ability to communicate effectively.Question 1 results text for Column 2 - 40-62%The key descriptors of a mid-range score on Self-Awareness are:Tend to understand own emotional responses to different stressors.Display reasonable awareness of own values and needs.Sometimes ignore, bottle or compartmentalise emotions.Display reactive behaviour when not managing emotions effectively.Could develop better use of intuition to support decision makingYou may be ignoring or shutting yourself off from your feelings. This is especially likely to happen if you do not like theway you feel or have low self-value. Attempting to ignore, bottle or compartmentaliseemotions will lead to a distorted perspective and engagement with others.Some of these elements may apply to you at the moment and are likely to affect your ability to communicate effectively.Question 1 results text for Column 3 - 63-84%The key descriptors of mid to high Self-Awareness are:Mostly authentic and non-defensive.Tend to understand own emotional responses to different stressors.Display reasonable awareness of own values and needs.Sometimes ignore, bottle or compartmentalise emotions.Display reactive behaviour when not managing emotions effectively.Could develop better use of intuition to support decision makingYour score suggests you have a reasonable awareness of your feelings, needsand typical reactions to things. However, there is room for you to develop your Self Awareness further; if you learn to notice your feelings early, then you will be more able to intervene and prevent the feeling from negatively impactingyour behaviour, for example, frustration turning to anger when in difficult conversations.Likewise, if you learn to notice how you feel under stress, you are more likely to learn what causes you stress and how to manage this effectively. Further developing your Self Awareness will provide a firmplatform for improving your overall Leadership Intelligence and engagement with others.Some of these elements may apply to you at the moment and are likely to affect your ability to communicate effectively in some circumstances.Question 1 results text for Column 4 - 85-100%The key descriptors of Self-Awareness are:Authentic and non-defensive.Stay calm and centred, keeping challenges in perspective.Can flex personal comfort zones.Sense of inner-confidence and well-being.It seems you have a good sense of self awareness that helps you to be in tune with those with whom you communicate. There is always the opportunity to grow in awareness even more. This often requires a 'deep dive' to identify triggers and roadblocks to your ultimate effectiveness.Question 2 results text for Column 1 - 0-40%Your score indicates:You sometimes pay attention to and show interest in others.Sometimes lack tact, interpersonal sensitivity and empathy.Display a lack of curiosity orinterest in people.Can be unaware of the impactyou have on others.May occasionally form assumptions about others which are inaccurate.These elements will be blocking your ability to really understand what is going on for others. This can jeopardize your credibility as an effective communicator and result in people avoiding an interaction with you. Question 2 results text for Column 2 - 40-62%Your score indicates:You generally pay attention to and show interest in others.Have a reasonable understanding of an individual’s motivations and needs.Sometimes lack tact, interpersonal sensitivity and empathy.Not always aware of the impact you have on others.May occasionally form assumptions about others which are inaccurate.These elements will be blocking your ability to engage with those around you which could frustrate you and them!Question 2 results text for Column 3 - 63-84%It seems you are doing well in your awareness of other people. This likely means that you:Show a keen interest in and understanding of people.Display tact, interpersonal sensitivity and empathy.Pay attention to and show consideration for people’s feelings.Display a flexible interpersonal style.Develop a clear understanding of individuals’ motivations and needs.These elements can really help you in your communication style. Be aware, however, that there is still some growth required here. Currently, you may not always be aware of the impact you have on others or occasionally form assumptions about others which are inaccurate. These roadblocks can affect your effectiveness as a great communicator.Question 2 results text for Column 4 - 85-100%It appears that you typically:Show a keen interest in and understanding of people.Display tact, interpersonal sensitivity, and empathy.Pay attention to and show consideration for people’s feelings.Display a flexible interpersonal style.Develop a clear understandingof individuals’ motivations and needs.As someone who is in tune with others, you can elevate your communication style further by learning about the psychology and neuroscience behind connection with others. You would find it fascinating!Question 3 results text for Column 1 - 0-40%Your answers suggest this is blocking your ability to really engage with those around you which could frustrate you and them!You may find it difficult initiating contact with people, or you may be less inclined to open up to people and express your feelings. Continuing to invest time and energy in strengthening your connections with people will help you to build trusting relationships, create effective networks at work, gain people’s support in times of need and generally enhance the quality and depth of your relationships.Question 3 results text for Column 2 - 40-62%It seems that you want to connect with others but sometimes this is difficult. Depth of connection involves being open in sharing your thoughts, values and ideas and being prepared to express your feelings and vulnerabilities as well as deeply listen to those of others. This is often an area of development for many leaders and business owners.Question 3 results text for Column 3 - 63-84%The way you answered this indicates that:You're confident and comfortable engaging with different people.Generally prepared to acknowledge and express feelings to others.Invest some time in building relationships.May form close trusting relationships with a select few individuals.At times may appear guarded, closed or slightly detached.Whilst you are doing ok with your ability to connect and truly listen, there are many techniques and strategies to learn that can make it so much easier to cultivate a connection that becomes a force of clarity and trust, when you communicate.It's wonderful when people just 'get you' without having to over-explain! Question 3 results text for Column 4 - 85-100%Connection is important to you and you are likely to value it above being seen to be 'right'. You know the power of deep questioning techniques and always know what people think and feel about your message, even while the conversation is still flowing. This positions you as an effective communicator in many scenarios. When people feel connected they are more open to change and to hear how they could approach things differently. They are less defensive.There some amazing techniques that would build on this current skill to enable you to stay connected even in the most difficult and potentially critical conversations.Question 4 results text for Column 1 - 0-40%Having low levels of assertiveness often stems from low self-esteem. This can show up in a variety of ways:A tendency to dominate others or take control.Less inclined to listen or take into consideration the needs of others.Tackle difficult conversations in a confrontational or hostile manner.Resist compromise, even when appropriate.Rely on a directive style of leadership and may be seen as controlling or a micromanager.It seems that you would really benefit from learning a range of techniques that will improve your level of assertiveness and reduce aggression, whether that me internal (aimed at yourself) or indeed aggression that others see..Question 4 results text for Column 2 - 40-62%From the way you answered, it appears:That you're initially less inclined to assert own wishes or opinionsyou may miss the opportunity to truly listenFlip between letting things go, then become rigid in your stance after a while.Maybe passive-aggressive giving the impression that you don't mind the outcome of a situation and then become angry when it goes a certain way.Suppress your own emotions and may become confrontational or hostile.Can sometimes deal with confrontation and act assertively when necessary to do so.There are many techniques you could leverage to improve your level of assertiveness so that your communication style gains the respect of others and you do not feel 'walked all over' and disrespected!Question 4 results text for Column 3 - 63-84%You probably stick with tried and tested approaches that suit you, having practised being more assertive and saying what you really mean/need/want.There are many techniques you could leverage to improve your level of assertiveness so that your communication style gains the respect of others and you do not miss the opportunity for total clarity in your communication and confidence to 'own' the message. Question 4 results text for Column 4 - 85-100%You have likely have an assertive style that allows people to know exactly how you feel about a situation or topic. You own your messaging and people feel comfortable with your approach, even in difficult conversations.To become more masterful in your assertiveness, you could leverage some techniques that help you look out for misinterpretation of your message or intentions and what to do about that when the converation is high stake!Question 5 results text for Column 1 - 0-40%You are probably so frustrated that you have a great deal to say and yet people don't seem to engage with your message!It is likely that your conversation are stimulating a stress-hormone response in you AND others.When others don't respond as you expect, or they misunderstand you, it can be disheartening and irritating.Developing your Emotional Intelligence is going to be critical for you at this point. In just a few weeks, you can learn many techniques to enhance your communication impact and style.This will help you with your confidence too. No more second-guessing yourself! People will see you as someone in tune with their needs, trustworthy, a great communicator and that you have a strong presence to build others up.Question 5 results text for Column 2 - 40-62%You are probably so frustrated that you have a lot to say and yet people don't seem to engage!It is likely that your conversation are stimulating a stress-hormone response in you AND others.When others don't respond as you expect, or they misunderstand you, it can be disheartening and irritating.Imagine knowing the exact thing to say at the right time that will remove all frustration for both you and those you're communicating with. That you feel aligned and in a relationship of collaboration.Developing your Emotional Intelligence is going to be critical for you at this point. In just a few weeks, you can learn so many techniques to enhance your communication impact and style.This will help you with your confidence too. No more second-guessing yourself!Question 5 results text for Column 3 - 63-84%You appear to have a good sense of your EI strengths and have likely done some exploration about how to enhance your communication style, based on your strengths and weaknesses.Collaboration is important to you and enhancing it further can help you feel more authentic and aligned with your messaging, especially when you need to communicate more difficult content.Knowing what questioning and listening techniques stimulate the connection hormone 'Oxytocin'.Question 5 results text for Column 4 - 85-100%Your answers show that you have a deep level of agility and emotional intelligence when you communicate. You can sense when others are feeling resistant or open to change by their posture and tonality. You are also likely to notice small changes in both your and the other person's physiology.The neuroscience relating to our conversations or 'chemical conversations' is very helpful in order to understand what neurochemicals are being secreted during each conversation and how those chemicals can make or break the success and outcomes of the discussion.Its always good to reflect that high scores across the range of questions can indicate over-confidence and lowered self-awareness. If you are interested to find out how blindspots can affect your communication effectiveness- let's definitely talk.Question 1 %Question 2 %Question 3 %Question 4 %Question 5 %Overall Total NumberThis will simply add up all questions and give a total number of points for all. Overall Current PercentageCreation note: Change "40" to the number of total points available in this quiz. Remember each question is worth a total of 4 points. E.g. Total of 6 questions is 4x6 = "24". 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